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Sometimes parents to protect fruits basket their children overboard, notes Doctor of Social Sciences Austėja Landsbergienė. "There is even such a term is" helicopters parents: parents fly over the child's head, the smallest stone foundation and immediately kilst child, only that it will not fail.
Then again, the building, like a child and goes on its own but as soon as the smallest obstacle - parents again descend. As a child grows and the knowledge that there will always be saved from hardships, so he pays little to combat them, "- she says. According fruits basket to educationists, do not overdo fruits basket it and to carry the child after circles, because he needs to have time for yourself, at least a few hours a day just to play quietly. In addition, brain research shows that too much stimulation is just as harmful as nestimuliacija when a child is abandoned, when it is no interest in neglected. So, emphasizes A. Landsbergienė, parents should be careful not to bent sticks and pinched the child.
- Seeing that the two three-year-old child already has a will of his parents naturally worry about what will happen later. How can you reassure them? - Each of us brings a child and responsibility. But if we do, we'll look into it as a passion, and it kankinsimės lifetime. One of the goals that I have set itself for yourself - tell parents fruits basket that parenting is a huge but extremely fun responsibility. If we sprinkled a little happiness to fine dust, and from the child, and the parents will only get better. We sometimes chasing perfect paternity, which is actually not. Even in the same family grew up in a children's approach will be different. One can say: "I really liked the way my mother did it and it, and the next child will be surprised," Really? I did not like it terribly. "What can I do for my mother? If it chatting with children, maybe one will be able to do in one way, the other - otherwise, but I still do not like something for someone. I think we need as early as possible to dispel fruits basket the illusion that we all believe in him and we will be perfect parents. We will be imperfectly perfect. And as early as possible and that is what we will learn to enjoy the better it will be for everyone. fruits basket
- Many of the great responsibility of parents who feel frightened that their behavior will affect the child's personality. - Of course, there is no doubt it will leave a mark. Parents we have the greatest impact. Later, people no longer have that have a greater impact. How parents treat us, what we say, we can not avoid. All of us and good and bad sense persecute lifetime. If this is terribly afraid, probably better fruits basket not to have children in total. But it should be viewed with a certain lightness of being: I act as if I, as the moment he said my voice of conscience, morality, and, in my opinion, is the best, so I did everything I could. Need to accept it.
- So do not need too much prominence and need little bit of playfulness and relaxation? And did you exchange the same child can get some change? - Yes, it is possible. Recent research shows that the brain is plastic and we change absolutely lifetime. Even on the last day of your life are not finite, until the very last moment of his life can change. What does this mean? That we are able to make decisions. Even some non-acceptance decision is a decision already. In fact, each of our action, opinion and certain behavior, taking into account that opinion, determines how we live. For example, when a man was small, the parents had beaten him, and now, as an adult already, he believes that the children fruits basket and grown, so your child punches when he disobeys. And suddenly such a dad or mom heard a lecture or read a book and learns that it hurt a child. If he comes, I'm sorry, if on the date of their behavior for the rest of the life of a child shows that he understood, the relationship will not be irreparable (although, of course, the child will remember the tag will remain). There were parents who never abusing him his child, but no relationship fruits basket is not. Relationship too complicated thing that we can be divided into white and black. There are always fruits basket a lot of black and white shades. fruits basket
- Are the parents' fruits basket expectations neįspraudžia child in the frame? - I think that in an ideal world we nespraustume children in any frame. Now, in the twenty-first century, we tend infantilizuoti children, in particular - to protect them. There is even such a term is "helicopters parents: parents fruits basket fly over the child's head, the smallest stone foundation and immediately kilst child, only that it will not fail. Then again, the building, like a child and goes on its own but as soon as the smallest obstacle - parents again descend to protect the child, help him. As a child grows and the knowledge that there will always be saved from hardships, so he pays little to combat them, has the means to adopt individual decisions
About the project Events Families variety Single parents multicultural family Couple family LGBT Adoption Legal Framework Material Studies Children Youth Parents Educators Legal Aspects of Violence - not 16 d. Violence against Women's History fruits basket Psychology Parenting Relationships Health Politics In English fruits basket
Sometimes parents to protect fruits basket their children overboard, notes Doctor of Social Sciences Austėja Landsbergienė. "There is even such a term is" helicopters parents: parents fly over the child's head, the smallest stone foundation and immediately kilst child, only that it will not fail.
Then again, the building, like a child and goes on its own but as soon as the smallest obstacle - parents again descend. As a child grows and the knowledge that there will always be saved from hardships, so he pays little to combat them, "- she says. According fruits basket to educationists, do not overdo fruits basket it and to carry the child after circles, because he needs to have time for yourself, at least a few hours a day just to play quietly. In addition, brain research shows that too much stimulation is just as harmful as nestimuliacija when a child is abandoned, when it is no interest in neglected. So, emphasizes A. Landsbergienė, parents should be careful not to bent sticks and pinched the child.
- Seeing that the two three-year-old child already has a will of his parents naturally worry about what will happen later. How can you reassure them? - Each of us brings a child and responsibility. But if we do, we'll look into it as a passion, and it kankinsimės lifetime. One of the goals that I have set itself for yourself - tell parents fruits basket that parenting is a huge but extremely fun responsibility. If we sprinkled a little happiness to fine dust, and from the child, and the parents will only get better. We sometimes chasing perfect paternity, which is actually not. Even in the same family grew up in a children's approach will be different. One can say: "I really liked the way my mother did it and it, and the next child will be surprised," Really? I did not like it terribly. "What can I do for my mother? If it chatting with children, maybe one will be able to do in one way, the other - otherwise, but I still do not like something for someone. I think we need as early as possible to dispel fruits basket the illusion that we all believe in him and we will be perfect parents. We will be imperfectly perfect. And as early as possible and that is what we will learn to enjoy the better it will be for everyone. fruits basket
- Many of the great responsibility of parents who feel frightened that their behavior will affect the child's personality. - Of course, there is no doubt it will leave a mark. Parents we have the greatest impact. Later, people no longer have that have a greater impact. How parents treat us, what we say, we can not avoid. All of us and good and bad sense persecute lifetime. If this is terribly afraid, probably better fruits basket not to have children in total. But it should be viewed with a certain lightness of being: I act as if I, as the moment he said my voice of conscience, morality, and, in my opinion, is the best, so I did everything I could. Need to accept it.
- So do not need too much prominence and need little bit of playfulness and relaxation? And did you exchange the same child can get some change? - Yes, it is possible. Recent research shows that the brain is plastic and we change absolutely lifetime. Even on the last day of your life are not finite, until the very last moment of his life can change. What does this mean? That we are able to make decisions. Even some non-acceptance decision is a decision already. In fact, each of our action, opinion and certain behavior, taking into account that opinion, determines how we live. For example, when a man was small, the parents had beaten him, and now, as an adult already, he believes that the children fruits basket and grown, so your child punches when he disobeys. And suddenly such a dad or mom heard a lecture or read a book and learns that it hurt a child. If he comes, I'm sorry, if on the date of their behavior for the rest of the life of a child shows that he understood, the relationship will not be irreparable (although, of course, the child will remember the tag will remain). There were parents who never abusing him his child, but no relationship fruits basket is not. Relationship too complicated thing that we can be divided into white and black. There are always fruits basket a lot of black and white shades. fruits basket
- Are the parents' fruits basket expectations neįspraudžia child in the frame? - I think that in an ideal world we nespraustume children in any frame. Now, in the twenty-first century, we tend infantilizuoti children, in particular - to protect them. There is even such a term is "helicopters parents: parents fruits basket fly over the child's head, the smallest stone foundation and immediately kilst child, only that it will not fail. Then again, the building, like a child and goes on its own but as soon as the smallest obstacle - parents again descend to protect the child, help him. As a child grows and the knowledge that there will always be saved from hardships, so he pays little to combat them, has the means to adopt individual decisions
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